What Makes a Divorce Amicable

On an episode entitled “You Don’t Have to Feel Amicable to Have an Amicable Divorce” on the Divorce Coaches Academy Podcast, Tracy Ann Moore-Grant, founder of the Amicable Divorce Network, sheds light on what truly makes an amicable divorce. Contrary to the common belief that amicability hinges on the couple getting along, Tracy emphasizes that it’s the mindset of the professionals involved that plays a crucial role in creating an amicable process.

Tracy explores the concept of “moral injury”—the emotional and psychological harm that occurs when actions conflict with personal values. This misalignment has prompted many family law attorneys to transition away from litigation. These professionals now strive to ensure their work aligns with their values, emphasizing resolution over conflict.

“There is a huge misconception that the couple is amicable, and they are not – the professionals are amicable. Many people think they need someone who will fight for them and be the bulldog, but after 22 years of experience, I can tell you that is like setting your money on fire and choosing to damage your family. Seeking emotional justice in the court system is just wasting your money and time.“

-Tracy Ann Moore-Grant, founder of the Amicable Divorce Network and partner of Georgia family law firm Patterson Moore Butler

Choosing professionals who focus on resolution can significantly reduce the time, money, and emotional energy expended during a divorce. Tracy underscores that choosing adversarial attorneys or judges to make decisions is often a costly route that leads to unsatisfactory outcomes.

Ultimately, the professionals you select have a profound impact on the cost, conflict level, and overall experience of your divorce—so make your choice wisely.

Listen to the full podcast here.